I am... confused.

[ket]

Maybe its just me and my "lack of wisdom", but maybe you older guys can enlighten me as to your opinion on something as I find the behaviour quite odd based on my own experiences. So, here we go!

Ok, so I know this girl, we are REALLY good friends but just lately I noticed something about the way she acts with me. Right here before I get any further in I'm going to say she has a kid and is enguaged. However things have been building up an just recently her whole attitude has changed. By changed I mean lately shes been getting pretty forward with me, in her words wanting to see my "doo-dah" (otherwise known as willy to the rest of us ) as well as saying stuff to me like "you have to think about us having sex". Without going into loads of details, I can tell when shes just messin around and when she says something with a element of seriousness about it, and I get the impression shes been kinda serious. At the least for her to say to me I have to think about us having sex clearly she must of thought about it. Right? If this was just a one-off then hey ok not much there, but shes been making comments on and off like this for a while now and seemingly getting braver in what she asks and how she acts with me. No idea if all of this is making much sense so far.. but hopefully it is lol.

So, in summary for those confused as I am

- Known eachother for some time
- REALLY good friends
- Always made lil innuendos
- Getting braver lately and outright asking specific "stuff" about me and forward comments
- Wanting to see my "doo-dah", and making no secret of it even in front of the guy shes with..
- Lastly, she texts me... a LOT, we talk... a LOT. Its like she has a addiction of seeing and talking to me

Well, hopefully all this stuff makes some sort of sence to you guys.. You'll probably need to ask me the "right" questions about various things, I just have no idea where to start with this kinda why the details are all over the place

I bow down to your wisdoms!

[rockingmtranch]

I'll take a stab at it. I read this maybe as going two ways. One is to make her fiance jealous (that is a turn on to some) and the other is a blatant trap for you. Once you have sex with her, she will own you. Anyway, that's just the way I read it. I don't read any "loving, caring relationship" in this.

[audioave10]

Ket...are we going to go through this again? LOL
First off, if she is engaged (and wearing a ring), forget it. The worst kind of woman there is (no matter how much of a doll she is).
You have found another game-player (as Rock alluded to). A person who uses their "assets" to play one guy against another. This
situation can only become a bad day (even if you have a good night). Think with your big head - not the little one.
With a cute girl, its difficult to see beyond the quick satisfaction of a "good time". I speak from experience.
Good Luck on this one!
Wait...so you are saying she's a good friend. In that case, I may have been a little tough on her. I still think it may be as simple as her wanting to sample another
guy she's comfortable with before she gets married. Still, put yourself in the other guys position and ask how "you would feel". Does the other guy provide her
monetary help in some way? A woman with a kid will always look on the "fiancial support" side of things too. It gets complicated and if you get involved you may
find yourself "pwned" worse than any other game you have played.

[ket]

What can I say? I can read most women well, even this one. Its just odd because we are really good friends so I'm not quite sure which way to take it I'm not one to comment on other people as its none of my business, but half the time it seems like she would much rather be doing something with me than her other half. We both had a "lil chat" not long ago an both agreed it would be kinda weird if we got jiggy, but neither of us said no either... ahem. Perhaps I should just freeflow it and see where it all goes?

[Nightwatch]

Well, Ket, as you see, none of our learned friends so far see any future in this; and I put my voice in the same chorus. I'd say walk away from it, she's engaged and has a child, nothing good comes out of things like that. You and the others will end up getting hurt, one way or another.

[3040Krag]

I dated an unattached woman for about 8 months once.

She came on to me, and when we hooked up, told me plainly she wanted to "keep it physical, I don't want to get involved."

Except, she DID continually involve me with her issues and life challenges - though she wanted nothing to do with mine. I was increasingly distancing myself from her, when one night she told me (in a very round-about way that I don't think was intended) that *I* was her means to make the guy she really loved jealous enough to leave HIS wife and hook up with her.

I was only a means to an end. That hurt and now, checking up on her over 10 years later, she's hooked up with the married guy and is as happy as a clam. Don't be used!

[ket]

Ahh all this makes my brain hurt so I'm going into default male mode: not thinking about it Anyways all this pales in comparison to some "activites" I got up to last night...

[rockingmtranch]

Hopefully with another woman and not your friend. Stay friends. Tell her sex would ruin your relationship. The opposite of that Seinfeld episode. I believe you'll both be happier in the end.

[ket]

lol no it wasnt with her, it was another girl but I'm a lil creeped out by what I found out. This random women comes up to me an my mates in a bar, shes hot, nice tight lil bod an stuff. We figure shes about 30, tad old for us maybe but not too bad we figure. Some of us end up dancing an grindin with her then at the end of the night we find out this woman who looked 30 was actually 47!

[audioave10]

That just shows how good you are at guessing ages...

[rockingmtranch]

Cougar!!!! Awesome dude

[ket]

lol seriously that woman had the body of jess and jess is 23! How the fuck that 47 year old kept a body like that I have no farking clue! Even her tits didn't give anything away they were real nice an perky.

[MeanderingBeing]

So I was flirting with this chick at work today... I had given her 2 dollars so she can cash out and go home, and she had told me that she'll pay me pack. So a couple hours later, she hands me back my 2 dollars. I put my hands in the air and just said "keep it." So she decided to stuff the money into the pocket, which I followed with "I feel like a stripper now. Want me to rub your titti-" I shut my mouth, closed my eyes, took a breath, then said "rub your face with my titties?" Meanwhile, I was thinking to myself "WORST. FREUDIAN. SLIP. EVER. DUMBASS." She just smiled, and said "I like the first option." Her grin ran from ear to ear. So naturally, my first instinct was "TITTIEEEEEES." But I controlled myself, considering my boss was standing right there laughing his ass off at me. I merely said "Well, I'm down for either option if you are..." and left it open like that... And she walked away.

*sigh* Goddamn my horrible flirting skills.

[ket]

lmao. Should of just picked her up and took her home

[Balious]

I don't even want to know how crap my flirting skills are

[MeanderingBeing]

lmao. Should of just picked her up and took her home

I'll remember that advice next time

[audioave10]

You should have used your gaming skills...

[ket]

You nerd

[rockingmtranch]

Gaming skills